I spent the last two days at the Mid-Western Educational
Research Association Conference in Evanston, IL. Over the course of the conference, I attended
different sessions with papers associated with themes of parenting, culture,
and education. Listening to each speaker
brought up the question, “what does it mean to be a good parent?”
The first session I attended focused on a study that was
completed at high achieving schools that are primarily populated by families
from higher socioeconomic statuses. This
presentation focused on Baumrind’s model of parenting styles and the benefits
of authoritative parenting.
Authoritative parenting styles promote high levels of support, warmth,
and structure. The parent-child
communication tends to be bi-directional.
The speaker described how they support parents at his school and they
try to coach them away from being over-bearing parents that are sometimes referred
to as “helicopter parents” or “Tiger Moms”.
The second session related to parenting was a cross-cultural
comparison of parent involvement in the United States and Taiwan. The U.S. school was an urban school that
receives Title 1 funds; this is a school with families from lower socioeconomic
statuses. In both places, the
researchers found that parent involvement was not always obvious. While parents might not be as present in the
school or have as much communication with teachers, parents were often involved
in more “behind the scenes” ways. The
presenters also remarked on cultural beliefs such as the Taiwanese parent’s
expectations that teachers are the experts on curriculum and school discipline.
The last session that I attended related to parenting
highlighted a Chicago area school that supports young moms by providing access
to child care, parenting support, and mentoring programs. The presentation included two young moms who
talked about their love for their children and their intense motivation to
transform their lives to best provide for their children. The young women spoke candidly about the
judgment that they face from others; some people telling them that they had “ruined
their lives”. These young moms were
dynamic, motivated women who are leaders in their community who spoke with
great confidence about their ability to be a good parent to their children.
So, what does it mean
to be a good parent? Is there one
answer to that question? If you look at
some research, there is a suggestion that there is one best way. This becomes a challenge to educators who
work to engage parents in schools. I
remember being on many special education teams where we had to carefully
negotiate relationships with parents. I
have also been on teams where there is a strong sense of judgment directed
towards the parent that does not fit the expectations.
There was one more session that added some further
information to this discourse. The
keynote speaker at the conference was a very famous educational research who
focuses his work on statistics and measurement.
He teaches at a major research institute and was appointed to a federal
board that examines education. During a question/
answer session after his speech, this speaker told a story that highlighted the
importance of understanding evidence through the lens of local wisdom. He described an incident where scientists
from England had comes up with a new strain of barley that they felt would be
much more productive. All of their
research demonstrated great results, but Irish farmers would not use the new
barley. The English researchers thought
the Irish farmers were just stubborn and uninformed until they went to Ireland
and tried out the barley in the Irish fields.
In that process they learned that Irish farmers used different practices
for working the land that were not effective for the barley and therefore the
barley did not grow well in Ireland. I
am not sure if this story is factual or just a great anecdote, but I think it
offers great insights into the importance of understanding local context.
Understanding local context is important when we look at
questions related to parenting too. To
understand what it means to be a good parent, we need to understand the context
of the parent rather than trying to fit parents into some pre-existing idea
that may or may not fit their context.
This is essential for educators as we try to foster parent engagement. An attendee at the cross-cultural session
shared that she was a principal at an urban school and they have a practice of
doing home visits to help understand the family’s context and the best possible
way to engage with the family. Bravo to
this school that makes such a tremendous effort to connect with their families. Bravo to all of the researchers to continue
to work on this complex question. Bravo
to all of the parents around the world who work hard every day to be the best
parent for their child.
